Our fourth graders have thought about the impact first impressions can make. As you know, last Friday the girls dressed in something that would tell us about them or possible interests they might have. From the moment they walked into the classroom and saw their classmates clothed in something other than a BMS uniform, they thought about their first impressions of their classmates - what thoughts came into their minds when they first saw their classmates, what might the outfit tell about the person etc. The girls were partnered up and quietly observed a partner. They responded to questions like What does my partner like? What is she wearing that gives me that idea? and then, after talking with her partner, was my impression correct? As a group we discussed stereotyping, when we think something is true about someone without getting to know them. The following are some of the girls' thoughts about the dangers of stereotyping:
"You might decide they are bad by what they are wearing and they might be good once you get to know them."
"If you say something or spread a rumor that turns out not to be true then you could really hurt their feelings."
"What you think may not be true, so get to know the person before you assume something."
"You might be wrong and never know the truth about that person."
"When you see how a person dresses and you think that it is ugly but in their culture it is actually considered pretty. They might feel bad if you tell that to them."
Ask your daughter about how she can get beyond a first impression when she meets or sees someone different from herself. Who knows, she might make a life long friend from getting beyond that first impression.